Recently got a round of Search for Planet X in. This is my first against people.
Contrary to @Captbnut 's experience, there was a lot of table talk (“Did you find a comet? Did you find a comet?” - watching for any tick or tell). There was a lot of discussion when I revealed two incorrect theories. I’d actually submitted the opposite of what I’d intended (hey, we have a 7 week old) but the results were just as definitive this way, if not worth any points. But yeah, there was some discussion because for about 10 minutes she’d been completely confused as to what I’d found there (spoiler: nothing)
It was her first game so I did win. She also found Planet X, after me, but she’d needed some of my (correct) theories to be revealed to fill in a last gap or two.
At one point she realized a mistake and spent, I kid you not, 30 minutes on her turn reworking her chart from first principles. I didn’t mind. I know her, and I know how engrossed I’d be if I were in that position. I punched another new game while I waited and periodically teased her. Just nice to be together.
But this is the real worth of the evening: At one point, she just didn’t know. She submitted some theories, because that late in the game there’s no reason not to, and they were wrong. And she felt it. Like, I couldn’t do it, I made a mistake. That led to a long discussion on life and parenting and games I I think she finally got, a bit more, why I like games so much.
There’s little else in that space where it’s real and yet it isn’t. You can go out in life and make a mistake, and it hurts, and it might hurt other people, and there’s consequence or loss to deal with. Or you can read about mistakes in Daniel Tiger and it’s very true but academic. Games make things that aren’t real matter. She could make a mistake, experience it, feel it so deeply (she was bugged for at least 24 hours) and yet there’s no consequence, no ripple out to the broader world. Games have taught me so much about being a person and living and such because I can go out and experience, like really experience, simulated things that suddenly matter.
And yeah, I think she is a bit changed from the experience.
Kinda neat.