I picked up a bit of a bug at the tail end of last week. While the main symptoms were over in a day, I’ve been having incredibly vivid and stressful dreams since.
They’re more exhausting than the main symptoms of the bug.
9 Likes
Thanks all. Recovering slowly and back in a hotel, on course to fly home as planned.
10 Likes
Mine arrived today. It’s certainly thicker than my old pillows.
1 Like
I spent years knowing I needed a new pillow, but not wanting to spend a heap of money online on expensive pillows that might likely turn out to not be right for me. Finally one day I noticed I was walking past a bed shop, so I went in and was able to try some out. The first pillow I tried seemed absolutely perfect – supporting my head at a comfortable angle if I was sideways. I spent the next half hour or so trying every other pillow in the shop and not liking any of them. So that was an easy decision.
I recall that it still took a bit of adjusting at home, but probably only about a week.
6 Likes
But I sleep with my arm under the pillow cos I don’t know where else to put my arm…
3 Likes
My chiropractor said that I did that because my pillow wasn’t tall enough
1 Like
What we need is a mattress with an arm-hole in it.
7 Likes
You can buy a pillow with an arm hole, but it looks weird and I dont think would be very comfy!
3 Likes
They made mattress with an arm hole - it was constructed of vertical slabs which could move a bit. I’ll try and find it online.
2 Likes
Detachable arms seem like less work.
3 Likes
I can’t say what will be best for anyone else (nor even that this is necessarily my best option), but I ended up getting myself a contoured pillow (not sure what brand offhand). Contoured pillows are taller at the edges (supporting your neck) but curve down in the middle (allowing more space for your head), and that higher neck support helps with the lower arm as well. It’s similarly supportive if I lie directly on my back, which I could never do with my old pillow.
I found it strangely difficult to find demonstrative photos online, but the one above gives a good idea; and if you ignore everything that’s just weird about the top photo on the linked page below, the model is demonstrating one of the ways I often have my bottom arm (it’s pretty much either ‘up’ or ‘down’, but the pillow doesn’t lose any support near the edges, so ‘up’ alongside the pillow is perfectly viable).
With my old pillow, the position of my arm was pretty much dictated by the need to use it to help support my head at a good angle, so I think my arm was under my pillow most of the time (and I’ll add that I often really wanted to go to that familiar old position in order to get to sleep when I first started using this pillow, so that was a part of the adjustment period).
If you’re in the market for a pillow and there’s an opportunity to test some to find out what’s comfortable for you, I’d certainly recommend that.
4 Likes
Speaking of elbow issues, I’m managing to get through some days without noticing mine bother me, so the measures I’ve been taking seem like they’re helping.
Also, my ankle is almost at the point where it’s pain free, just have to keep working on the rehab.
There’s some light at the end of the (very dark at times) tunnel.
7 Likes
OH MY.
It’s literally been been keeping me up at night with what to do with the bottom arm when sleeping on my side.
4 Likes
Contured pillow AND cuddle enabler?
It came to me (whilst in bed) that this product requires sheetless sleeping.
I’m not for that.
1 Like
After three years on the couch with only the occasional walk for exercise, I have taken up Brazilian jiu jitsu again. Had my introductory class tonight, a fundamentals class that actually went really well.
The warm-ups have taught me that I can still do cartwheels, front rolls, back rolls, and ground twists (that’s what I call 'em anyway), and the technique part showed that I can still do a reasonable approximation of a hip bump sweep and kimura. So muscle memory’s still there, my cardio and endurance are just shot to hell. But I’ve missed this SO MUCH! Definitely gonna go back, if all goes well next Thursday (agenda’s super full until then).
Downside? SWEET ZOMBIE JESUS EVERYTHING HURTS!!!
13 Likes
After seeing that my friend who was my second bridmaid, unfriended and blocked me. Second time that’s happened.
Not from any fight, it was passive. Last interaction is when I sent a food basket after her father’s death. I’d cooked for her family before.
Autism does not go anywhere. I really don’t have a choice on how I spend most of my time. And my stress is high, my resources are low. It is very hard to reach out, went at the end of the day. We have nothing left to give.
And I’ll be honest here. Sometimes I snooze the feed of peers because seeing such normalcy physically hurts, in the light of the VERY different world my family lives in.
I’m sorry, I know this is heavy here. If I wasn’t already completely stressed out by the things we are going through, this wouldn’t hit the same. Like hitting an already bruised spot?
21 Likes
I really hope you don’t spend too much time worrying about this.
It doesn’t seem like she was a friend, after all. Granted, I don’t know your history with her, but it sounds like, perhaps, you’ve grown apart, which is understandable.
I am not in your position, but I will say that just being outnumbered by children in my house has impacted the tiny iota of social energy I had. I haven’t spoken to my best friend (if you don’t include my partner, that is), who was my Best Man, in over a year – and sadly, we have actually grown apart for a number of reasons.
It’s always sad to lose a friend, but it can be bittersweet if, in the process, you discover who she really is.
10 Likes
I’m right there with you. Even my parents, who spend a lot of time in our house caring for our kids, can’t really “get” what this life is like. Our wall of Christmas cards this year hurt every time I walked by it. Just like, all these families who want to take a picture and just tell their kids to “go stand over there” and it happens. “Go stand.” The gap from here to there isn’t something that can ever be explained. I’m still surprised sometimes by things, myself, unexpected implications our our daughter’s special needs.
Our community has drifted away, too, because we are just too hard to hang out with. We move slowly. We are hard to schedule. We can’t participate in the activity that is easy for their kid. We can’t leave our kids in the back yard and hang out like normal adults. We’re just hard.
I haven’t figured out what to do about this either. Async on BGA, I guess.
15 Likes