A few weeks ago, I was moving things around in my office and my oldest daughter noticed my Go stones for the first time. She asked what they were and I started telling her about Go. That night, we sat down and I kind of showed her the basics of how to play. She seemed to have a knack for understanding the influence of the stones on the board, so I complimented her on her natural intuitiveness- she somehow decided that this meant she was better than me at Go, and that she “won” the game we played (I was merely showing her examples of play and how formations come to be and exert control over the board).
I rejected her conclusion and said that we would find time to play a game “soon”. She was persistent.
My partner and I, separate of this Go interaction, had discussed making time to spend 1-on-1 with our children, finding time for both her and I to go somewhere and do something with a child as a way of giving them full attention. When I brought up last week that Spring Break might be a good opportunity for one of the older two (who are normally in school during the week) to have a Daddy And Daughter date, my oldest was insistent that we go to the local boardgame cafe and play Go, so she could win.
Today, we went to the local boardgame cafe, paid WAY too much for a boba drink for her, and took along my Go stones and goban (they don’t list Go as a game they have available at the cafe, despite hundreds of games).
We played on 13x13 (because I don’t seem to have a 9x9 board anymore?), and I offered a lot of instruction to her as we played. She played well, but Go is a game of experience more than anything else, and I won handily- we did not calculate the score.
She was, of course, devastated because she was sure that she would win. I was proud of how well she picked up the nuance of how stones create strength on the board (something that, certainly, would have been beyond me at her age). Now, I fear she will not want to play again.
Incidentally, after the first interaction, I went out on Youtube and checked if there were any good Go content creators and found… uh, nothing that caught my eye. But I did stumble across a fantastic Chess youtube channel and have, for the first time in my life, become interested in Chess (and Chess Variants, which is actually the primary thrust of said channel; however, the player has a great understanding of Chess itself and approaches Chess variants using Chess fundamentals). I’ve been watching Chess videos fairly regularly for the last few weeks and have even played a few games on chess.com. Mostly against bots, but a few against real people… which creates such a dreadful feeling of anxiety that I cannot even explain (I do not like mathematical rating systems, it seems).